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Do it now! These three things will make you happy.

What to do now?

Do you want to live life in harmony? Practice these three things daily: Acceptance, Responsibility, Defenselessness. Remember these three things.

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When I started the MKMMA course last September one of the requirements of the students was to blog about their progress and share it with others through social media, one post a week. I was a little hesitant at first but I soon discovered that it was something I really enjoyed. However, as the weeks progressed I found it more challenging to find something to write about. I think it might be that I started feeling uncomfortable about sharing events of my personal triumphs and struggles with people that know me so I started to explain only some things and as I write this now I can hear the thoughts in my head telling me, “don’t get too personal” or “careful what you say, you might have to explain yourself.”

I know the title says: These three things will make you happy… bear with me a moment…just working through some things…

As I’m thinking this I realize it’s my old blueprint, the habits of the past, although diminishing still manage to creep up and hold me back from continuing my journey. A thought pops into my head: Good grief! Will you just lay off! I pause for a moment… trying to decide what to do next, something to quiet that nagging old blueprint and as I take a deep breath and relax I remember an excerpt from The Greatest Salesman in the World, “…weak is he who permits his thoughts to control his actions, strong is he who forces his actions to control his thoughts.”

The negative thoughts get quieter, the old blueprint stops in its tracks. Another thought pops into my head, I pull a piece of paper from my desk, something written by Marianne Williamson, the words written in bold, “Your playing small does not serve the world.”

The old blueprint shudders at the words. Another  thought  comes to me. I shuffle through the pages in my bag beside me and pull out some pages, written on the top of the first page, Seven Laws of the Mind, the old blueprint stumbles backward, I turn to the second page and read the seventh law, The Law of Growth: Whatever we think about grows. What we forget atrophies.

I stare at the cursor on the page for a few moments, watching it blink, it’s quiet. That negative thought, it’s gone. I can’t hear it anymore. I can continue to type and share now! Yes!

Thank you for being so patient… and now… those three things that will make you happy.

What I would like to share with you in this post is one of the things that I have committed myself to; the Law of Least Effort. Now I know what you might be thinking, least effort? This sounds like it’s a recipe on how to become a great couch potato! I assure you it’s nothing like that at all. The Law of Least Effort means living each day keeping these three things in mind: acceptance, responsibility, and defenselessness.

Now let me explain something. If you had asked me to practice this years ago, I may have given it a look and it may have gone something like this:

You want me to accept everything  because everything is as it should be? If I don’t like it, why should I accept it?

Oh, and taking responsibility? For what? Something that someone else has done? It’s not my fault things happened the way that they did. And if it was my fault, well I’ll sit and stew about it for a few days, learn nothing from it except how to look and feel real miserable and have everyone else around me walk on eggshells and do their best to avoid contact with me until I forget what it was that put me in that mood only to repeat it at later date and repeat the whole cycle over again.

And defenselessness… hah! Are you kidding me? My point of view is my point of view. If someone is challenging that, then it’s time to step into the ring!

That would have been my thoughts a few years ago, but that was who I was, not who I am today and as I practice and apply these three things daily I find that there is a certain calmness that I am manifesting.

Accepting things as they are I don’t struggle against everything and I can continue to live in harmony.

Taking responsibility for my actions I learn from my mistakes and see everything around me as an opportunity in disguise.

When I take a stance of defenselessness I am open to other points of view, I get to know the people in my life a little bit more every day and we learn how to work in harmony instead of wasting all that energy on verbal warfare.

Here are the three points that make up the Law of Least Effort:

  1. I will practice Acceptance. Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur. I will know that this moment is as it should be, because the whole universe is as it should be. I will not struggle against the whole universe by struggling against this moment. My acceptance is total and complete. I accept things as they are this moment, not as I wish they were.
  2. Having accepted things as they are, I will take Responsibility for my situation and for all those events I see as problems. I know that taking responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for my situation (and this includes myself). I also know that every problem is an opportunity in disguise, and this alertness to opportunities allows me to take this moment and transform it into a greater benefit.
  3. Today my awareness will remain established in Defenselessness. I will relinquish the need to defend my point of view, and I will feel no need to persuade others to accept my point of view. I will remain open to all points of view and not be rigidly attached to any one of them.

Looking for a challenge? Give the Law of Least Effort a try, let me know how you make out!

You might ask me what my thoughts are on The Master Key Experience. I would tell you this: it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and the best thing I’ve ever done.

I am learning to listen to the truth of my heart, to find inner peace and I am loving every moment of it!

Have a look at this short video. If you’d like to learn more opt-in here for information on this years course.

 

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Meditation – An Exercise worth Trying

Meditation: My First Introduction

I was first was introduced to meditation in my early twenty’s. It was a martial arts class that I took for many years. We were instructed to meditate for about a minute before the start of every class. It helped us clear our minds to be able to focus on what was to be learned. The only other time that I was required to meditate was for my black belt training. Myself and several other students were put in a room for the duration of the class and told to just close our eyes and breathe.  What I can remember from this experience… not much. I do remember the room being very dark, and my legs being very sore from sitting cross-legged for about an hour.

Unfortunately, I never saw any value in meditating and never continued with it. I never fully understood the immense benefits of meditation. I never looked into how to meditate effectively or what to meditate about.

Today, some 15 years later if someone were to ask me about meditation I could talk at length about how much I love to do it and the experiences I’ve had from it.

I think it’s safe to say that there are many ways to meditate, what to meditate on or about, where to meditate, what to do while meditating and so on. What I would like to share with you is how I meditate and what I have gained or learned from it.

First thing that I would like to state is that I am sharing my experiences with you the reader. I am not telling you this is the way you should meditate. It’s the way I’ve been taught to meditate, and it works for me. If you are curious and you would like to try I’ve given some information near the end of my post which you may find helpful.

Meditation: My Second Introduction

In September of 2015 I went back to school. It is an on-line a pay it forward scholarship called MKMMA. One of the things that were required of the students to do in the course was to meditate or sit approximately 15 minutes every day. The book that we used to assist us in our meditation was The Master Key written by Charles Haanel. You can pick the book up at your local book store or download it for free on-line.

The fact that the facilitators chose this book is truly remarkable. The book is divided into 24 parts. Each part is approximately seven pages long with questions and answers at the end of each part to serve as a review. The content is amazing, and on about the last page of each section before the review is a paragraph or two that gives the reader instruction on what to meditate or sit and think about.

I like this book and the way you are instructed to meditate/sit because it’s progressive or compounding. Each part builds on the last part and it helps you understand the importance of meditating with a purpose.

A Minor Adjustment

It was very challenging for me at first. I found that aside from sleeping I had never really given my mind a moment to relax. My thoughts were everywhere. It was difficult to focus and to top it off I would meditate late at night before bed and my body would just scream for me to go to bed. This made concentrating on trying to visualize something in my mind virtually impossible. There were many nights where I went to bed frustrated and exhausted. It was only after I spoke with one of the guides from the course that I began to see much better progress. She had mentioned that she would sit and think in the morning. I decided to try this instead. It took a little bit of adjustment and a commitment to wake up earlier in the morning to do this, but it worked.

What I’ve Learned

It is incredible what the mind can do for you when you meditate.

Here are some of the things that have happened for me:

  • I am a much calmer person.
  • I have better control of the thoughts that pop into my mind.
  • Answers to challenges that have come up in my life have often been answered during a sit.
  • Better reasoning skills.
  • A more positive outlook on life.

Thinking About it?

If after reading this you do decide to try meditation I would like to give you some tips that I have learned from my experiences that may help:

  1. Don’t get frustrated if at first you are not getting the results mentioned in the book. Trust the process, it will come.
  2. Do not treat the book and its contents like a novel; treat it more like a work out for your mind. The more closely you follow the instructions, the stronger your mind will get.
  3. don’t rush through the parts, make sure you give yourself adequate time to read and to do each exercise, and try to do it somewhere where you won’t get any interruptions, this is very important.
  4. And just remember to enjoy the process; it can seem like you’re getting nowhere sometimes, but if you stick with it, you will notice the benefits from what you are doing!

A Little Help

While you’re trying this you may want something to accelerate your progress, it continues to help me to this day, it’s called 7 Days to a New Life, it’s free and you can sign up for it on the right side of the page. And if you are really enjoying this and find that you want more you can sign up for early notification for the course I took, it’s at the top of the page under Master Key Blog. There are a few short videos there to explain a bit about the course to help you decide if it is something you want to do.

If you have any questions, please ask and I will do my best to get you answers. One of the valuable things I have learned from this course is to ask questions, you will eventually find the answer you are looking for.