Monthly Archives: December 2015

Week 13 MKMMA – Humbling Expereinces

There are a couple things I’d like to mention today,

I read Larry’s post yesterday (shared it on Facebook and Twitter for those of you who would like to read an incredible post), in his post he mentions one of the key elements of this course and that is promises and the importance of keeping them. I too have found that I had to review and refocus on some of them, I just wasn’t being honest with myself. Two of my biggest challenges have been my True Health goal of exercising five days a week, and the revision and ultimately the completion of my Press Release. I have discovered as many of you in this course already have that when you finally set in your mind to do something, it gets done, period. For exercising I used several techniques revolved around linking to making my goal a reality:

  1. I focussed my thoughts on what I had written down, how it would feel, and what it would look like.
  2. I also focussed on my movie poster and the shapes and colours that I have linked to my True Health goal.
  3. And I used the NARC technique which was very powerful in helping me choose wisely.

This week I’ve worked out three times already and I intend to complete the last two.

As for my Press Release, this to me has been a huge challenge as I don’t remember the last time if at all that I was ever asked to write something about myself in the future with the things that I had set out to do already completed. I used two techniques to help me complete this:

  1. Any thought at almost any time that I had regarding the content of my Press Release I would write out. I kept writing. I didn’t care about the order of things I just kept writing. I had several different beginnings, a lot of stuff in the middle and several things to add to the end. I found this was the only way I was able to move forward with this.
  2. The second technique that I used was what helped me piece everything together and get it done. I made a promise to myself on my plan of action card to get it done by the 20th of December. After all those weeks of procrastination and frustration, I decided to write a date to get it done and make a promise to myself, and in one week… one week, amongst all the other things that life decided to throw at me that week, it got done. Now just a word of warning, any of you that do decide to read this please note that although I have it done I still have to type it out in my Press Release column and although I am very slow at typing I do intend to get it done. I promise!

The second thing I wanted to talk about Part 13 of Haanel’s Master Key, 13-26. When I first read this passage I was unsure of what to do. For those readers that are not familiar with this book, at the end of each chapter is an exercise and you are asked to sit and think on it. Most of these exercises are pretty clear and specific, but this one, at least for me was a little abstract. I had read it several times before saying to myself, ” just sit and think about it, see what happens.” Well I have to say that it was an overwhelming experience, a lot of answers came to me that first night.

I thought that I would have the same experience the following night, but I did not. I thought about that for a while wondering how could I get back to that incredible place again in my mind? Then an answer came to me and I think I may be understanding things a little better everyday. That initial experience on Monday night was a realization and a recognition for me, it’s like I was able to unlock a door and behind it was more knowledge and understanding of how to create a life of peace and prosperity for myself. So I think that even though I did not get that same overwhelming experience that I had the first time, the ‘door’ that I unlocked is permanently open and that realization and recognition is now a part of my world without.

Thanks for reading and enjoy the holidays.

 

 

Week 12 MKMMA – Moving Forward

The deeper I get into the MKMMA course, reading Og’s The Greatest Salesman in the World, and Haanel’s Master Key the more I find out about myself. One of the ways I find out more about myself is when I ask questions, something I never considered important before starting this journey.

Now when I ask myself questions I look for the cause that has given me the effect, especially when it is an undesirable effect. When I do this I start to discover why things have unfolded the way that they have, almost with pinpoint accuracy.

I change the cause to get a different effect, a different result. There is some work involved though, and a willingness to let go is important too.

So Og mentions that if I persist I will succeed, and according to Haanel there are three steps to keep me moving forward and my success is determined by my eternal vigilance. The first one is I must have knowledge of my power, got that; second, the courage to dare, working on it; third, the faith to do, working on it. Haanel also states that each step is absolutely essential. So as I write this out I can see why I am making progress, but not the progress I’d like to see. Am I upset with myself, a little. Will I get over it? Already done. Do I know what to do to keep moving forward? Absolutely. I have the knowledge, and I know it doesen’t apply itself, I have to make the application and the application consists in “fertilizing the thought with a living purpose” …”and it must be sharp, clear-cut, definite. Charging my thoughts with feelings creates the belief necessary to take action to get the results I desire, I must focus. I know what I need to do,I’ve fallen behind with what’s needed to keep me in forward motion, so what did I do? Made a promise to myself. What do I know about promises? 

Haanel 4-12:

“Unless you do this, you had better not start at all, because modern pychology tells us that when we start something and do not complete it, or make a resolution and do not keep it, we are forming the habit of failure; absolute, ignominious failure. If you do not intend to do a thing, do not start; if you do start, see it through even if the heavens fall; if you make up your mind to do something, do it; let nothing, no one, interfere; the ‘I’ in you has determined, the thing is settled; the die is cast, there is no longer any arguement.”

Time to get it done.

Week 11 MKMMA – I Persist Until I Succeed

I know I’ve mentioned this word in previous posts, but it’s definitely worth mentioning again. Persistence.

In Chapter ten, Scroll Three of Mandino’s The Greatest Salesman In The World he mentions ” I will never consider defeat and I will remove such words and phrases such as quit, cannot unable, impossible, out of the question, improbable, hopeless and retreat; for they are the words of fools.”

Although I’ve read this passage 26 times to date, yesterday was the first time I actually made a conscious effort to do this, which is great because I think I am starting to understand the true value of something like persistence and the positive impact it can have when used constructively. The persistence to just be an observer instead of sharing my opinions, the persistence to apply the seven laws of the mind, the persistence to continually remove words of defeat from my vocabulary… dare I imagine a life without defeat? A life where I I see obstacles as challenges and always look for ways to solve them? Sure I slip up and have to refocus, but I am happy that I am aware of what I am doing and able to learn from my mistakes and continue to move forward. Mandino also mentions, ” I will avoid despair but if this disease of the mind should infect me then I will work on in despair. I will toil and I will endure.” Again, yesterday for the first time I chose to do something different. I decided to work through the mood I was in, constantly reminding myself of what I have set out to achieve. I know the excuses are just a way for me to justify why I didn’t do something and they just continue to hold me back from doing my best. Old habits die hard. But I have a plan that has been set in motion to replace them, and I work at it one step at a time.

I’d like to leave you all with something to listen to. It’s part of my playlist now. The song is called Staple it Together and it’s sung by one of my favorite artists, Jack Johnson. My wife and I were gathering some odds and ends at her parents place and that’s how we stumbled upon the CD. We hadn’t listened to it for a while, so we decided to pop it into the CD player for the car ride home. When this song came up I was amazed. I understood the meaning behind the song before, but listening to it now with all that I’ve been practicing and applying through the MKMMA course it has so much more meaning to me.

Give it a listen if you like but before you do I’d like you to read this passage from the intro to Haanel’s Master Key Part 10:

“The ordinary man, who has no definite knowledge of cause and effect, is governed by his feelings or emotions.

He thinks chiefly to justify his action. If he fails as a businessman, he says that luck is against him. If he dislikes music, he says that music is an expensive luxury. If he is a poor office man, he says that he could succeed better at some outdoor work. If he lacks friends, he says his individuality is too fine to be appreciated.

He never thinks his problem through to the end. In short, he does not know that every effect is the result of a certain definite cause, but he seeks to console himself with explanations and excuses. He thinks only in self-defense.”

Week 10 MKMMA – Application and Persistence

It’s funny how sometimes when you learn something new you’re so eager to apply it, mixed in with a little bit of fear, and for the first little bit you end up tripping all over yourself. That’s how the MKMMA course has made me feel like from day one. But I do my best, and for the most part I enjoy it. I know I have a choice, I can choose to let my old habits get the best of me and dwell on the negative, or think about why I acted the way I did, realize that I’ve made a choice based on my old habits, celebrate the fact that I made this realization, and make a conscious effort to apply what I’m learning to behave differently the next time.

Haanel states in Part Ten of The Master Key: ” The ordinary man, who has no definite knowledge of cause and effect, is governed by his feelings or emotions.” I am now working on being governed by constructive thoughts and using those feelings or emotions to charge those thoughts to create the belief necessary to take action to get the results I desire. It may take several attempts, I may silently curse myself when I slip up… nope, don’t do that anymore, I just smile, sometimes chuckle and shake my head and start over. It’s a process as Og mentions,”… I will consider each day’s effort as but one blow against a mighty oak. The first blow may cause not a tremor in the wood, nor the second, nor the third. Each blow, of itself, may be trifling, and seem of no consequence. Yet from childish swipes the oak will eventually tumble. So it will be with my efforts of today.”

A couple of things that I can celebrate about this week:

  1. One of my goals to achieve one of my pivotal needs has been accomplished. Funny thing was that I realized that this goal that I have been trying to achieve I’ve been doing for a very long time, I just haven’t been applying it to impact me in a positive way consistently. This was a very humbling discovery for me.
  2. Something that I’ve learned about myself that is directly related to Og’s quote above and I rediscovered it thanks to an observation my mother made about my son. Something I have done often and never quite looked at it as a good quality until recently. My family and I went to Great Wolf Lodge this past week. Both of the Grandmothers came with us. My son was in the wave pool at one point and my mother and I were watching from a short distance. She turned to me and said, ” You know, it’s amazing how much more he’s enjoying the water park compared to last year”… she was referring to the fact that he wouldn’t go near any of the water features there except the wave pool and the kids wading pool area. This year he was into just about everything. She continued to say ” …he’ll do things when he’s ready to do them.” She turned to me and said, ” do you know who else was like that? … You.” I thought about that for the rest of the night. It wasn’t just a flick of the switch and ‘BAM’ it just happened. It was a progression. All throughout this past year he conditioned himself whether it was in the bath tub at home or in the public pool at the community center. He slowly but deliberately with persistence kept pushing himself, testing his own limits and breaking through those barriers. It was challenging for my wife and I not to push him, it was a challenge for him to move forward, but it is quite amazing to witness a child overcome any obstacle without being pushed to do it. We continually offer him guidance and support that help him understand the choices that he has, but after he has the facts or information, he makes the decision. And more often than not he makes the positive, constructive choices.

I am very proud of my son and very grateful to have him remind me daily through his actions that eventually even if it is only one step at time with persistence I will succeed!